Being educated about the clitoris is a wise move, especially if you or your partner have one. It is often known as the “pleasure nub” and anyone who has one gets a lot of pleasure from it. All you see of the clitoris is a tiny nubbin, extending way up into the vagina. It’s full of nerves that can be stimulated both internally and externally.
First things first: What is the clitoris?
The clitoris has the most nerve endings per square inch of any part of the human body and is responsible for many orgasms. Its only function is to give pleasure.
Where is the clitoris?
The clitoris is the little nubbin that’s found at the top of the vulva and at the point where the inner labia meet. This fold of skin is known as the clitoral hood. The clitoris is bigger than you think. What you see on the outside is just the tip of the iceberg and most of it is internal and not visible. We only see what looks like a tiny pea. It can be as long as 5 inches long (12 cm), so not that little. The shape of it is often referred to as a wishbone. ( Some experts say the clit looks like an upside-down flower with large petals extending the body that embodies the vaginal canal).
It’s purely for pleasure:
When aroused the blood rushes to the clitoris, no different to the penis, which causes it to swell and become erect. The rush of blood flow also causes the vulva to darken in color. That’s not the only change whilst becoming aroused. The vagina also gets wider and deeper. There have been lots of theories of what the clitoris is there for, but its only purpose is there to give us pleasure and makes us feel good. Only 6 percent of women can reach orgasm by vaginal penetrative sex on its own, which means the clitoris plays a huge part in most women climaxing. Most women need clitoral stimulation as well as vaginal stimulation to get to the big “O”.
The G spot vs the clitoris: are they the same?
The G spot is often described as the nerve-dense erogenous zone which is about 3 inches inside the vaginal canal, alongside the front wall. The G spot is not completely different from the clit, as it’s the part where the clits bulbs form a heart shape and hugs the canal and this is where the G spot is a part of the clitoris that is stimulated internally. The sensations you get from vaginal penetration against the vaginal walls are heightened because of the pressure that’s against the interior part of the clitoris. Some find vaginal stimulation as well as clitoral provide a much more intense orgasm.
Ways to stimulate the clitoris:
Here are some different techniques, and remember always start soft and slow to warm up.
The rub: Use your hands, fingers, or sex toy to gently rub up and down, back and forth across the clitoris and the clitoral hood.
The tapping motion: A gentle tapping on the clitoris and the hood can help build up slowly to an orgasm.
The grind: You don’t need your hands for this or even to take your clothes off. Straddle a pillow and grind yourself against it to get yourself off.
The pinch: You get two fingers around the clitoral hood and gently tug up and down on it, also gently slide your fingers back and forth.
Orbit: Use your fingers in a circle-like motion around the clitoris and the hood, touching the labia in the process.
Fun zones: Because of the unique shape of the clitoris you will probably become aroused and orgasm just by massaging other erogenous zones on their own, along with the clitoris. By touching the labia, the vaginal opening, the inner thigh, and the anus, and maybe lying on your front as this way you get easier access and more pleasure. You can always use a vibrating sex toy to enhance pleasure.
You can try stimulating the clitoris internally, if you enjoy internal stimulation. Go a third of the way up into the vaginal opening, and mix it up with a bit of pressure and stimulation on the front of the wall, to see what feels good. It will need practice and will take time to find the right spot, but will be well worth it in the end.